Someone recently called me a “professional conventional wisdom assassin,” which I really loved. It’s true – society feeds us all kinds of expectations about how pieces of our life are supposed to go. When our narrative doesn’t fit that, it [...]
I’ve only ever purchased two things from a Facebook ad. The first was a giant, beautiful, forest-themed tapestry that hung for years in the waiting room of my old group practice's office suite. I’m not sure how Facebook’s algorithms knew [...]
"Where are you guys headed?" A close friend, Ramona, was in town for a conference and staying at my house. The truth? We were heading to couples therapy. I felt my cheeks flush. "Oh... just a meeting we go to [...]
I wrote an article a few years ago about things that everyone can learn from the kink community. The rationale is that when people introduce unconventional things into their sex lives, they can’t make the assumptions most of us make [...]
In the past few years, a new phenomenon has emerged in dating. Actually, it’s a very old phenomenon, but it has a shiny new name and is amplified by the advent of dating apps and other technology. It’s called ghosting. [...]
Yesterday, on Valentine’s Day, maybe you bought someone flowers. Maybe you took them out to dinner or prepared them an extravagant meal. Maybe you told them you love them to the world and back, and wrote them a card saying [...]
It’s amazing what a person can grow accustomed to. I wrote a few months ago about how stressful it was when I went into my office one day to find that my building was under construction. Everything was scaffolding and [...]
A few weeks ago, I called a friend to wish him a happy birthday. We spent about half an hour catching up, first talking about his celebration plans, and then more general life events. As we were getting off the [...]
“I’m just a girl who cain’t say no!” proclaims Ado Annie (prounced Ay-doe Annie), from Rogers and Hammerstein’s 1943 musical Oklahoma! by way of introduction. Poor Ado Annie. She’s so confused about what’s okay and what isn’t. Everyone tells her she [...]
Even the healthiest, most functional person can look dysfunctional in an extreme situation. This sentiment, paraphrased from one of my graduate school text books, is something I think about a lot. It’s true of individuals, but it’s also true of [...]