When I found out that my first child was male – that is, he has XY chromosomes – I cried for two days. No one was more surprised about this than I was. My pregnancy was the result of a [...]
In Vitro Fertilization, or IVF, is a lot to go through. Between the ambiguity of not knowing what’s going to happen, the “wait and hurry up” rhythm of it all, and the emotional hangover from trying to conceive which, for [...]
When I'm 23 again, I'll floss daily, develop a sustainable exercise routine, and really get to know myself. In my next adolescence, I'll spend more time studying and being an activist, and less time worrying about boys. Recently, I’ve been [...]
How we imagined it: 2 shots, 2 weeks, and HELLO WORLD, HERE I COME! The Reality: …is a lot more complicated than that. The country is reopening, and depending who you ask, this is for better or for worse. As [...]
It’s tough, this holiday that brings up so much for so many of us. Flowers, gifts, brunches… yes, those are sweet and simple and nice. But the experience of being a mother, the path to becoming a mother, and the [...]
Last weekend, I did a little bit of summertime "spring cleaning". It was a task I'd been avoiding for awhile, but I decided it was time. In my tidying frenzy, I encountered The Drawer. You know the one I'm talking [...]
As I write this, my 16-year-old cat Lily is sitting on the cushion beside me purring – but two weeks ago she nearly died. Let me explain. Lily went under anesthesia for a routine diagnostic procedure, and coming out of [...]
About five years ago, I decided to dismantle my life. This is not a melodramatic overstatement. I was living in Boston at the time. I had a long-term partner, an apartment, a gratifying full-time job at a community mental health [...]
Someone recently called me a “professional conventional wisdom assassin,” which I really loved. It’s true – society feeds us all kinds of expectations about how pieces of our life are supposed to go. When our narrative doesn’t fit that, it [...]
Mallory came to see me about two years ago, and she felt – in a word – stuck. She had been in what she called a “dead-end relationship” with her girlfriend for five years. She had been at her paralegal [...]