Hack Your Love Life with Economics
I am not an economist, but I live with one. Before I lived with someone who studies and practices economics, the word terrified and mystified me. I had a vague idea that it had something to do with money or [...]
Narcissistic Parents and Learning to Manage Mama Rose
“I made you! And you wanna know why? You wanna know what I did it for? 'Cause I was born too soon and started too late, that's why! I could have been better than any of you! What I got [...]
Welcome to Los Angeles!
I have been getting a lot of calls recently from new clients who have just moved to Los Angeles and are having difficulty adjusting. Some of these people moved in two days ago, and some moved here two years ago, [...]
4 Songs to Help You Heal From a Breakup
Sometimes music makes you dance, laugh, sing, and feel joy. Other times it grabs you by the guts and makes you feel the things you’ve been suppressing. Either way, it can be incredibly healing. Everyone has their go-to songs, but [...]
Healing Your Relationship With Food
I want you to imagine you’re at work, and someone brings in donuts. Do you think to yourself: I’m going to have a donut. I bet they taste really good, and I see no reason to deprive myself. Why the [...]
How to Make Friends as an Adult
Something I’ve been hearing a lot of people talk about recently is the challenge of making friends as an adult. When you’re a child, it’s easy. You go up to someone on the playground and say, “hey, do you want [...]
Why Sex is Different Than Broccoli
Sex therapist Marty Klein is an incredibly good speaker. He’s an excellent writer (and you should seriously consider getting your hands on a copy of his book Sexual Intelligence), but his speaking is absolutely unparalleled. That’s why when I was [...]
Loneliness and Online Harassment
Maybe it’s because I’ve been rereading Daring Greatly by Brené Brown, but the above discomforting interaction led me to think a lot about vulnerability, connection, and loneliness. Let me explain. I have two profiles on Facebook. One, which I’ve been [...]
The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic
Why Your Partner Clams Up or Runs Away From Conflict (or why you do!) I want you to imagine that you’re at a cocktail party, and you’re talking with someone you have just met. As people naturally do, you stand [...]
8 Ways to Support Someone Who is Contemplating Suicide
Trigger warning: frank discussion of suicide. The first time someone told me he was planning to kill himself, I was a sophomore in high school. I had met Freddy (name changed), who lived in Florida, one time through a [...]